Don’t do this and see what happens.

You don’t have to love confrontation to be a good leader.

It’s true – even Oprah Winfrey confessed that she hates confrontation, in her video podcast with Marcus Buckingham.

The same goes for friendship – you don’t have to love confrontation to be a good friend.

Joe just told me that you called me a monkey face. Is that true? (Photo by Dan Taylor)

But if you avoid confrontation, and just vent about someone to everyone but that person, you won’t be their friend for long.  As a leader, you probably won’t have very happy followers, either.

Confrontation is the only way forward. Deal with it head-on.

There’s a gazillion articles on how to get better at it, but here are 2:

1. Confrontation for Sissies (3 pretty decent steps to confront someone well).
2. How to handle confrontation (6 “essential” steps plus a confrontations quiz).